Parents often ask me how to limit their child's time on the computer. They usually wish to avoid "tech tantrums"--frustration and meltdowns--when they tell their child, "Time's up!"
What's the goal?
One of the most important things I stress to them is to fully understand what their child is trying to achieve, whether it is on a website, software, video game, or app. Is he or she creating something? Or trying to beat levels of a game? Attempting to finish a puzzle? Or just randomly surfing from one thing to another?
If you set a timer, or give a child an "end time", they might get frustrated if they haven't completed what they set out to do. Instead, understand your child's goal and set an approximate end time based on that goal. If the goal is too ambitious and could take much longer than you want, then help your child reset this goal to something that can be achieved in the time frame you prefer. Communicate, set expectations, and don't just say "Time's UP!" When time is ALMOST up, check in with your child and see what they have accomplished, and then you can transition to something else--without the tears!
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